>>14539The big problem with finding decent partners–man or woman–over thirty-five years of age is marriage. By that age, just about everyone who isn't broken or otherwise emotionally unstable is already married. Marriage dramatically limits the playing field to players and losers who are already out of the game for one reason or another.
An older person can play around with another married person, but it is critical to recognize that the extra-marital partner will
always 100% of the time receive lesser consideration than the spouse does. Sure, the lover is a lot of fun and is generally significantly more pleasant to be around than the spouse is, but spouses possess a financial stake in the marriage which is, at its core, what marriage is all about. Also, the spouse represents an emotional anchor, someone with a long and, importantly, familiar history with the cheating partner. That familiarity might be described as "the grown-up kind of love." The extra-marital partner cannot hope to ever compete.
So married people are right out when looking for a long-term partner (fantastic for the short-term, though). What prospects does that leave for people over thirty-five who are still looking? There are the single parents, individuals whom any practical-minded person rejects out of hand as being nothing other than desperate parasites. There are the exceeding rare divorcees and widow(er)s who are as hot a commodity as any teenager is. Then there are the never-married who at that age are, to a one, some manner of certifiable and likely kooks and schizos.
So, if you are that age and on the market, find the widows/widowers, but be aware that they have their pick of the field and no end of would-be suitors. It is like chasing a high school cheerleader/quarterback all over again.