Again, for the people who lack the ability to think beyond reddit gotcha hot takes, women can be strong, courageous, etc.
However, when someone is courageous, stronger, honorable, etc, we* don't say they are more feminine.
*We, meaning people raised with positive and capable male role models.>>150598
Correct about the burden of performance part
However, strength is associated with masculinity because males are, on average, much stronger than females. It's not some media psyop. Such a notion of masculinity is thousands of years old.
Just because in the west, everyone works in an air conditioned office, besides your Latino worker-servants, and thus suffers from muscular atrophy unless otherwise checked, doesn't mean this fundamental aspect of masculinity ceases to exist.
A lot of your confusion comes from the fact that you live in the heart of a finance capital empire.
Base>structure>superstructure — in case you need to be reminded about the ABCs of Marxism