>>1816maybe sort of, but it's not like an all or nothing or inborn type of thing. People who are very functional tend to have pretty strong armor to the world and are gonna be more goal driven and show less emotion. Or they're going to be very sheltered and genuinely not understand how bad things can be. Often people prefer to just look the other way, in order to save themselves in the face of a traumatizing world.
I think the best we can try to do is be fluid, so we can be strong and keep our sanity in order toexist, and also keep in touch with the world and our deep sadness and ability to feel, and not get locked into one or the other mode of thinking/feeling. At least that's how i see it, but i could also understand wanting to not give up on any feels. It just makes living and socializing hard as fuck.
my 2 cents