>>444915>"hate" itself is very personal though, and people are complicated so hate can come out in complicated ways, like how many homophobes are gay themselvesI've known people who were homophobic before coming out as gay. That's a real thing. But I think "reverse racism" (or reverse sex-phobia or whatever) can also exist in a sense, though not the way reactionaries talk about it. Like if you feel like you've been wronged, then that can lead you to hate everyone who belongs to the group who wronged you. People are not really rational.
But there are all kinds of contradictions, because if I hate straight people because I was treated badly by a straight person – which has happened a few times – then do I also hate my brother who is straight? Or my parents? Or some of my friends? It just doesn't make sense. Or do I even hate the person who treated me badly? Not anymore. Which is a different thing from "love" like you said. It's more like, eh, whatever.
>i used to hate someone and i literally couldnt move on with my life because i hated them so much but one day i forgave them and so much weight was left off of my shoulders.I think people also project negative feelings about themselves onto others. But then you start to think, what's the point? You're letting them control your own headspace. And history is a relative thing. The sun could explode and humanity could go extinct and none of this would matter a rap, so why get wrapped up in "righteously" hating someone because you've been wronged. I think pathological white racists feel that way, they feel like they've been wronged by black people somehow, or they had an incident in their life, and they hold onto it and it destroys them. It's a different thing from white liberals who are "well-meaning" but do racist things. It reminds me about what some black thinkers say about white liberals, and how they can be a bigger enemy than the neo-Nazi because they preach "peace" and moderation before justice. Not that the neo-Nazi is a "friend," but you know what I mean.
>people simply dont want to be hated, not defended by you. thats why i cant stand white anti-racists speaking on behalf of black people.I like this scene from the film "Malcolm X." A white woman asks what she can do to help, and Malcolm says "nothing" and just moves on. And she feels bad, and that sucks, but it's not about her, right? He knew right away that the liberals desire to "help" comes from a place of snobby superiority and only serves to make them feel better about themselves. But it's also interesting because Malcolm regretted what he said. He wrote in his autobiography: "Well, I’ve lived to regret that incident. In many parts of the African continent I saw white students helping black people. Something like this kills a lot of argument … I guess a man's entitled to make a fool of himself if he's ready to pay the cost. It cost me twelve years. That was a bad scene, brother. The sickness and madness of those days – I'm glad to be free of them."
I think the synthesis that comes out of this is, on the one hand, blacks need to become strong enough to solve problems on their own, because if they become to reliant on other people then in a sense they almost become indebted to those people, and as a result end up not becoming truly free. On the other hand, truly good non-racist people can be found in all races including the white race. I am thinking of Fidel Castro.