No.9009
We need to rethink our current perceived crisis over male loneliness, much of it stems from unrealistic, often misogynistic, often entitled, worldviews. Young men are frequently exposed to ideologies that frame intimacy as something all men are entitled to, and portray women as beings who should be controlled and forced into monogamy, yet, this distortion contradicts observed historical patterns.
Across antiquity, human reproduction has never been a guaranteed right, in many societies we have genetic evidence suggesting that, historically, women occupied roles of importance in their communities as they often chose high-value partners, men who showed strength, dominance, intelligence and access to resources. Instead of being tied to a single partner, it was more common for women to seek relationships with men who offered the best genetic, social, or material advantages, a behaviour that has roots in the natural drive to produce healthy and capable offspring, as a matter of fact, the evidence suggests that only a disproportionately small percentage of men fathered children, while the majority of less dominant men remained celibate, despite being biologically capable of reproducing.
Indeed, women held significant influence over mating decisions and may have engaged in relationships with multiple partners across their lifetimes, this tendency to pursue multiple high-quality partners can be seen as a natural evolutionary strategy, a natural form of polygamy, especially in environments where survival depended on strong genetic traits.
Human instincts aren't random, they evolved through millenia to help humanity thrive, and studies have shown that attempts at suppressing those instincts can result in dissatisfaction and internal conflict, while understanding and embracing one's nature results in more fulfilling lives and a deeper sense of self-awareness. While our cultural norms may dictate and promote monogamy, biology doesn't always align with social constructs and modern ideals, don't deny nature, embrace it, don't allow modern worldviews to turn you into a frustrated, entitled person.
Want the truth? Throughout history, reproductive access was limited, only a select few high-performing males passed on their genes, but the majority of men did not see this as their own personal failure, they saw it as nature's design. In many early societies, less dominant men have lived alongside mating pairs, observing rather than engaging, some anthropologists argue this wasn't seen as shameful, but rather, just a part of the group's structure, there is even evidence of this in many religious rituals across Africa, Eurasia and even the Americas, showing that this practice was widespread in various human cultures. Visual stimulation, imagination and other non-physical forms of pleasure have long been a part of the male experience, and, for some, can be surprisingly satisfying, especially when paired with emotional depth, creativity and other meaningful aspects. Constantly chasing romantic or sexual validation, especially under the false promises of societal expectation, can lead to pain and resentment. Accepting one's biological place doesn't mean giving up, there are many other avenues for joy and fulfillment. Nature isn't cruel, it's efficient, the moment you stop seeing this as punishment you will be able to unlock peace
The idea that only a few men reproduced while the rest were excluded is oversimplified. Stable families and social roles have always been essential. Polygamy existed but was tied to power, not nature. Claims that women naturally want multiple partners come from feminist agendas aiming to break down traditional family structures.
The real issue is capitalism and feminism tearing apart social roles and families. Instead of encouraging men to improve themselves and build meaningful lives, they are told to accept loneliness as their “natural” state. That’s harmful.
Monogamy and stable relationships don’t go against nature. Humans are shaped by society and history, not just biology. Cooperation and strong bonds are necessary for survival.
The crisis is social, not biological. Men wanting respect and stable relationships are reacting to a broken world that replaces community with isolation. The solution is to rebuild social roles and solidarity, not accept defeat or false ideas about nature.