There are no good people.
All people are shit. People who hate themselves suck, people who love themselves suck. People who love themselves usually have nicer lives, but there's sort of a chicken-and-egg question which emerges as a result: how much of it is their high self-esteem making it easier for them to interact with others, and how much of it is luck of conditions beyond their control granting them both higher self-esteem and easier conditions? It's probably kind of a feedback loop.
Anyway, the best you can really do is love yourself enough to love other people and not care about most
people. Knowing that you're a piece of shit doesn't make you not-a-piece-of-shit, it just hurts, and you end up seeing other people who are even worse than you in some ways, and you wonder why they
don't hate themselves as much as you hate your
self… so whether you hate yourself or love yourself, it really has no bearing on how good you are as a person. If you can not hate yourself, try it out… it's nicer, as far as I can tell. >>148838
It's one of those catchy things people repeat, but… nah. Like "I'm obsessed with myself, I'm totally self-absorbed, I want my self to not exist!" just doesn't make any sense if you think about it at all. Like there can be overlap in cases of less extreme self-hatred, but even then it's usually more useful to describe someone who hates themselves as self hating
rather than narcissistic or vain.